Way back in 2009, a local neuropsychologist referred to me as an expert in teaching executive functioning skills. I paused and thought, “I am? What are executive functions?” I’d never heard the term. So I Googled it.
At that time I got a single hit, just ONE for executive functions! The phrase “executive functioning” was just barely making its way out of academia and into psychological testing.
Google that phrase today, and goodness, the list is long. Almost everybody I come across has some sort of awareness of what that means.
While this shift has made it much easier to describe my work, there is still no agreed-upon definition for executive functioning. It depends upon who you are following in the research world.
I have chosen to stick with the model put forward by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare. It is simple enough to understand and yet sufficiently detailed to show the complexity within the brain required to get things done. They break executive functions down into 12 separate skills. Over the coming months, I will be diving into one brain skill each month.
In my Seeing My Time ® program, I have my clients evaluate the strengths and weaknesses of their own brain, using the Dawson and Guare model.
The first word we delve into is still unfamiliar to most: Metacognition.
Interestingly, that word is starting to move into common use. The Wall Street Journal recently did a whole article on metacognition: “The Power to Decide How You Feel”. I was both amazed and delighted because metacognition is my favorite five-syllable word.
Metacognition is key to the success of my clients. It is typically described as “thinking about thinking.” I tweak that a bit to define it as, “thinking about MY thinking.” It is a complex word that encompasses our self-awareness of WHY we act the way we do, and it is connected to our problem-solving abilities.
We can’t change our behavior unless we change our metacognition – the way we think. I think of metacognition as the conversation we have in our mind every time we make a choice as we move through the day. For example:
Recently a delightful SMT Private Sessions client summed up metacognition with a spin on Hamlet. It was so wonderful that I told him that I wanted to use it and give him credit. He gave me permission to use his first name. Here is his wisdom:
“To do, or not to do. That is the question.”
Rodney hit the nail on the head! Metacognition and executive functioning boil down to answering that question just about every minute of every day. It is about choice. We all make choices every day.
We build metacognition when we are able to evaluate the outcome of those choices. We can truly change our behavior by listening to the guidance of our wise prefrontal cortex to choose the action that moves us forward into feeling capable or we can choose to give into our emotional brain’s desires or fears which perpetuate our feeling incapable.
To do, or not to do? Pause and think about that. Try to become conscious of the choices you make and observe the result. Do you want your life to change? You can make a different choice. That’s very powerful.
Little by little…
Marydee Sklar is the president of Executive Functioning Success and the creator of the Seeing My Time Program®. She is an educator and author of three books on executive functions, as well as a trainer and speaker. Marydee has more than twenty-five years of experience working with students and adults with executive function challenges.